persistence

I'm just having one of those days where I'm questioning everything....

Did we put the right wording into the profile of ourselves? What will they think of us? What if we missed something important? What if we end up waiting way longer than expected? What if the judge turns us down? etc.....

I don't know why I do this. I know I'm being ridiculous.

This morning, I opened up the Bible, not knowing where to read and the parable in Luke 18 of the persistent widow caught my eye. Now, I might not fully understand the meaning of this passage, but it spoke to me today. Basically, this woman continues to approach the heartless judge until she wears him out and he gives her justice. Jesus goes on to say that if even a godless judge does this, surely God (who loves us!) will give justice to his chosen people who plead with him day and night. Yet, here I am...doubting.

However, I will not give up hope and I will continue to pursue a life of faith and prayer. God is good and I am thankful for all the growing pains!

Some music for you

As we continue to wait, I'm trying to think of things I can do to keep from going crazy. Most days, I'm not succeeding! We are, however, hopefully getting a crib this weekend and setting up the baby room will be great. As long as the bed isn't empty for too long!

We've also been trying to pick some names which has been way harder than I every thought! There's not a whole lot that's really jumped out at us, but I would like to start narrowing things down soon. While looking through baby name books though, we came across some names that will definitely NOT be given to our child... Fifi-Trixibelle, Diva Muffin, Moon Unit, Dweezil...yikes!

Ian and I have been listening to Ladysmith Black Mambazo lately which is a group from South African. I've been loving it! Anyway, the pictures in this video aren't very clear, but I like the song. Just so you know...Shosholoza is a Zulu word that means go forward or make way for the next man.

Enjoy!

SK "get togethers"

Throughout this whole process we've been able to get to know some awesome families! It's been such a blessing to be able to visit and share with couples who know how we're feeling and what the process is like. I thought I'd share a couple of pictures of some of the great families we've been getting to know...

This was the first time we met with a few couples.

The ones on the right are in SA right now and getting ready to bring

home their son and daughter.

The cake we had at our last get together

There are a few spouses and most of the kids missing in this picture, but these are

some of the other families.

Two very adorable kids!

Hi!

I know, I know, it's been a while since we've posted anything on here. I guess I've realized blogging isn't one of my strong suits. To be honest, it's sometimes hard knowing what to say, but we really will try to post more often!

Anyway, enough excuses. :)

So, the past few weeks have been good. It's hard to believe that it's almost been a month already since our paperwork got to SA. It's gone by fast which is great! Yesterday we met with some other families who have/are adopting from SA. That's the second time we've met with some families and it's been really good to meet their kids and talk about the process. We found out that one of the families just got their referral on Thursday and they've been waiting less than 2 months, so that was encouraging to hear! (For those of you who don't know what a referral is, it's when you get the call that they have a child for you)

We've been trying to do a lot of reading lately, but at times it's overwhelming. We've mostly been reading about transracial adoption and although there is some helpful information, sometimes it's too much to think about all at once. I think we'll really continue to learn as we go.

We've also been trying to learn more about our baby's country and recently bought a book called "A Rainbow in the Night." It's about the history and birth of South Africa which I think will be really interesting. Along with learning about the country, we've tried a few SA wines and listened to more of the cultural music. We really look forward to having the African culture a part of our lives and family! I was trying to upload a video of some SA music, but couldn't get it to work so I'll have to try again later. If I get pictures from our gathering with the other families, I'll post those too.

We continue to try and be patient in our waiting. There are days when it seems easier and days when it's definitely tough and I feel like I'm going crazy. We pray for our baby every day and can't wait to meet them and bring them home!

Well, I don't have much else to say right now, but I promise to try to post more! Who knows what the next couple weeks will hold...maybe we'll have some exciting news to share!

Thanks for reading...

Heidi

And The Waiting Begins...

Well, we have some exciting news! Our dossier was mailed to S.A. yesterday and should be there by Tuesday!!! This is SO awesome for us! At the beginning of the week we got in touch with our agency and they said that it should be mailed in a couple of days. I wasn't holding my breath, but was hoping that it would at least be Friday...and it was!

So now, all we can really do is wait. The social worker in S.A. will get our dossier and we can start to be considered as adoptive parents when she has a child that can be adopted. Our agency said that a referral could happen at any time. They also said that the social worker is working hard at getting through files in the next couple of months, so that could be good news for us! It's really hard not to get our hopes up that a referral will happen soon but I'm also trying to be realistic because it could be 12 months.

I am looking forward to this part of the journey because there's nothing more for us to do. I'm trusting that at the right time, God will place the right child in our family and that will be a great day! For now we continue to prepare...reading, buying luggage for the trip, getting baby stuff, getting immunized, picking names and just enjoying the time we have together.

Thanks for reading and praying for us through this. We really appreciate all the support we've had from family and friends. It means a lot!

Have a great day!!

A few pictures

Hi! I know it's been a while, but there hasn't been much to write about.

We did have a chance to meet with some families last weekend and it was so great to visit and share with them. We'll be having another "get together" at the end of March with more families who have finished their SA adoption and I'm looking forward to meeting the kids! We're also part of a Families from S.A. group online and it's already been a great resource.

I thought I'd post a few pictures of our first baby "stuff." They have all been gifts and I usually start crying every time I open something. It feels so good to have things for the baby in the house! I have them sitting in the baby's room and I love walking past there each morning. Anyway, they might not be that interesting to you, but that's about all I have for now!

We'll keep you posted...

The first few items -

one boy and one girl sleeper since we don't know who our little baby will be

Soon these little feet will be filled...

Our Chariot stroller

News

Okay, so we have some new news now!

Our dossier was just reviewed yesterday at Mission of Tears and our contact there said that all our documents are there, which is great! We do have a couple of things that need to be fixed a bit in our home study before it can officially be sent off, but it's better to catch those things now rather than later.

We were hoping that our file would be sent immediately to S.A., but we found out that the social worker there has an adequate amount of files right now so ours won't be sent for a few weeks. There is a small possibility that it could be sooner, but for now we're kind of waiting. We know our file is in capable hands.

With the ups and downs we've already felt through this process and with the nerves of making sure we have everything "right", we can only sit back and be comforted in knowing that our incredible God is orchestrating everything. I don't know what I would do without Him! I have sanity and patience through all of this because I know that our baby will eventually be with us. Some days I can hardly think about it because my excitement drives me crazy! Ian said to me the other night that he's just ready for all the adventure to start of travelling to meet our baby, being in Africa and bringing he/she home. I agree!

One thing we're looking forward to is getting together with some families who have/will be adopting from S.A. We're meeting for lunch this coming weekend. It's great to have that support!

Anyway, just keep praying that our home study gets all the last few bumps smoothed out and praise God that our dossier is getting through the final checks on the Canadian side. I'll keep you posted as to when it gets sent to S.A.!